“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.”-

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I was browsing through the internet and i came across this quote which manage to tuggle at my heart strings. Ever since i started working as a match maker in a marriage agency, i came across many men & women who are divorcees & once had failed marriages, time to time i will listen to their stories on why their previous marriages didn't last, & most blame it to cheating partners or lifestyle differences. At times it does make me ponder over my relationship/marriage with Corey. In the past, he would always wear the same couple shirt with me ( even though he hates clothing with pictures/designs ), he would be very attentive to my fb, showering loving statuses at my profile wall every now & then, always making sure that i am sound asleep before he goes to bed beside me, being over sensitive to certain things & always bringing me out without fail & etc etc. After we have been together for 3 years & counting, he doesn't really do all those things above anymore but does that mean he really loves me lesser? In the past, there are times when i got moody & will tend to pick on his faults which resulted in quarrels due to all this little reasons & we even had a phase whereby we both felt tired of each other but im really glad in the end both of us persevered.
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& came the turning point in my life which i don't want to mention too much & this manage to bring our gap closer together. I learnt to grow more tolerant of him, giving him more freedom & of course not being too short tempered towards him, in certain ways he has improved too. Sometimes i really wonder if more couples sit down & try to understand their partners love language more will the outcome of their marriage be different? Will they still need to pay hundreds of dollars to find a new partner? Working in this industry do let me doubt about my confidence towards my marriage but it changes my view in a sense that i no longer set unrealistic standards of a fairy tale romance & am more willing to accept that my partner grows and change, so the way of him expressing his love will be different from before. I still have a lot to learn as a wife & i am happy to accept the challenge of trying to keep my marriage/relationship harmonious & happy. I can't guarantee my marriage will be a happy ending one ( as everything takes 2 hands to clap ) but at least i have done my part. There will still be everyday petty arguments & squabbling though :) haha!
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Love,
Raine

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